Coaching Case Snapshots

After months or years of casual dating, couples who choose committed relationships may still have feelings of jealousy and fears of intimacy – which may particularly show up in social situations with other couples. Coaching conversations can help partners get real with themselves, and learn strategies that will help them sustain long-term love as partners, while learning to accept themselves in a committed relationship – and maintain great friendships with other committed couples. … [Read more...]

A coach can help a couple explore how they want to "show up" in their relationship with each other, as well as: How they plan to handle conflict. How they know that they are being truthful with each other. How they can help each other grow as individuals while becoming closer as a couple. How they can keep it fun and exciting! How a couple can maintain their sexual attraction as well as romantic intimacy. … [Read more...]

Perhaps you are satisfied with the way things are going for you in general but you want to develop a more defined life plan with deeper purpose that is also aligned with your core values. One of the key benefits of an effective coach is one who encourages such exploration and deepens the client's learning about himself. As a result of discovering what you stand for and what you're really here to accomplish, you can live to your legacy. This level of coaching could very well catapult you into a dimension you never knew existed! … [Read more...]

You have a relationship with someone from a diverse background – whether from another race, another country, or just from a very different part of the country. Not only is the relationship new – but the cultural differences are becoming overwhelming! Coaching can assist new and diverse couples as they face the challenges of being in a new relationship while learning about each other’s cultural differences. At the same time it can provide strategies that will help the couple gain acceptance from both sets of parents as they intertwine backgrounds and cultures on both sides. Accepting themselves as individuals – then together as a couple – is essential for a successful … [Read more...]

Are you coming from a background of pain and sorrow? A victim of sexual abuse? Depression? Alcoholism? Drug addiction? Do you have a hard time loving yourself and others because of a painful past? Coaching will help you find clarity of purpose and desire and the strength to stay true to new goals of sobriety and wellness – even in the face of old friends and long-term bad habits. Certain coaches can also provide real coping strategies to assist you in staying true to new life choices and goals beyond 12-step and other programs of recovery. … [Read more...]

You met in the workplace, at a bar or other social gathering place, and experienced an intense physical charge that drew you together instantly! But over time you came to realize that you want your strong physical connection to evolve and expand into that of real relationship – but don't have a clue how to do it! Coaching can help you find the core of who you are as individuals with diverse sexual biographies as well as a couple. This way you can begin to build the foundation of a truly intimate relationship. … [Read more...]

Your partner suddenly discovers that he is HIV positive. You want him to know that he is still loved and accepted as much as he ever was and that the disease won't change anything – but your love and support isn't accepted or even heard. Coaching can help your partner be more gentle with himself, reclaim his life and start living on purpose - every day to the fullest. It can also support you in finding strategies that will allow you to adapt to the new reality of living with HIV in a loving relationship. (Note that if there are deep wounds relating to the emotional effects of the disease, it may become necessary to work with a psychologist either before or in concert with a coach. … [Read more...]

Some men wait until their late 30's or later to tell their parents that they are gay. Being afraid of jeopardizing the most important relationships of their lives is a real fear for many. Before telling anyone, a life coach can help you explore: Your own feelings about being gay. How well (or not) you have accepted this truth about yourself. Your own uniqueness in other ways. Ways to communicate with parents or significant others. Being open with your parents and other family members can result in everyone becoming much closer and emotionally healthy. In fact, often times the reaction is way better than expected. If not, well that can be dealt with, too. When … [Read more...]

When Raymond was coming of age it was commonly thought that homosexuals were bad people and deviant. They were considered the worst possible people, just as they still are in some ultra-conservative circles. So when he began to realize that he was sexually attracted to other guys at about 14 or 15 years old, Raymond was not able to make the logical connection that he was gay because he knew he wasn’t a bad person. There was also a popular idea that if a young man had same sex urges, they could go away by having sex with females, as if to suggest that they really wanted females in some way. As Raymond reached adulthood, he was still unable to resolve the dichotomy between self … [Read more...]

When the relationship commitment is different for each of the partners, one or both partners may continue in the gay bar scene separately – and one or both may "cheat" emotionally or physically and create huge problems in the relationship. Coaching can help partners explore their problems, issues, and beliefs about commitment – and discover what they want from their relationship together. It can also assist in getting to a place of real intimacy and commitment to each other as well as heal any wounds from the past. … [Read more...]