You keep hoping he’ll stop drinking one of these days. Going out to bars and partying all the time was fun at first, but now it’s getting really old. He’s talked about cutting back, but you’re tired of the empty promises. You think about your ex more than him. You constantly compare your last relationship to this one and fantasize more about the past than the present or your future together. His job search is going nowhere, and you’re tired of the recession excuse (and supporting his lazy ass). He doesn’t have to make millions, but he should contribute something. He’s more in love with this phone than with … [Read more...]

Why do we say we are committed to financial security, but then open our credit card statement to see that our new balance is higher than the beginning balance? Why do we firmly resolve to a new exercise plan but then agree to go have drinks after work instead of going to the gym? Why do we promise our spouse that we’ll be more intimate, but when it comes time, we find every reason to avoid it? It’s not because we are bad, weak or completely undisciplined. At the same time, we might work long hours, earn a six figure income, be able to move heavy furniture out of Crate & Barrel, and actually have a very high sex drive. The problem is that we have unconscious commitments and … [Read more...]